Since I’m remaining in my pajamas today, grief struck from having to euthanize my beloved cat, Gabriel, I thought I’d put my grief, skills and perspective to good use and blog about one of THE most emotional purchases: pet care.
I was clear yesterday, prior to getting any news about him, that I was not going to keep him alive by some elaborate means (emotionally, financially, physically). Then, they came back with the blood work indicating that he was in kidney failure. They could provide dialysis and I could continue giving him fluids at home. It would give him more time…with me. It was selfish, I argued, to keep him in pain just to cuddle him a few more times, and chose instead to release him to the Divine from which I unquestioningly believe he came.
I have not stopped crying, although I know I made the right decision.
I often wonder if vets give us the “hard sell”; you know what I mean, they offer all manner of options for our beloved pets because they KNOW how emotionally attached we are to them and we simply cannot spend enough money to keep them with us or to take measures to maintain optimum pet health. (This became clear to me when we brought home a rescue dog. I had no idea how many immunizations a dog “needs”.)
I was speaking with a good friend this morning, she also has cats, some of which have required very expensive medical treatment. After the last one passed, she and her husband agreed ahead of time to set a dollar limit on any one animal’s immediate medical needs. This way, they could decide rationally, in the heat of the moment, whether or not to accept certain measures. I thought this was a great idea and plan to apply it as soon as I can stop crying. I encourage you to use it, too, because as much as we love them, we must accept the larger picture for their lives and ours. I’m certain that even the Sultan of Brunei (if he has pets) could benefit from this limitation because, no matter how much money you have, there’s never enough to buy forever.