Or, why being anything is easier than being a Mom.
When our daughter was 18 months old, I went back to work. I enjoyed (endured) the time home with her until then and felt going back to work was the best option for our family for many reasons. Some were definitely self focused, because I really enjoy my work, and I feel it’s my responsibility to share whatever gifts Providence gave me.
I remember my first full day (at the time I worked one full day and one half day per week). I went to the bathroom when I had to go and didn’t have to worry about anyone sticking their fingers into an electrical socket. I drank coffee – leisurely – as I researched financial strategies and had lengthy discussions with colleagues about behavioral economics. I bought items online during my lunch break which lasted a full hour.
Over the years I somehow survived the day care guilt on those days when family wasn’t available to watch our daughter which – thankfully – were few; I cannot fathom trying to do this without my family. (I blogged about this in a related post “Is Our Financial Lifestyle Unsustainable?” https://amyjolauber.wordpress.com/2013/06/24/is-our-financial-lifestyle-unsustainable/)
I became well known in my field. Clients pay for and follow my advice; they do as they are told. This does not happen with my daughter whose life is an endless adventure to prove every bit of parental guidance ever stated wrong.
I have control issues.
I didn’t realize this until I became a mother.
Of course not. While I’ve been hired to look out for my client’s best (financial) interests, I’ve never had such a need or desire to control the environment of another human being; to protect, teach, inform, inspire, guide.
I’m always telling my clients not to focus on things they cannot control (like the stock market, or other people’s unscrupulous behavior) and instead focus on what they can control (thinking about their goals and dreams, spending their money mindfully, and investing patiently). I suppose I need to write myself a check and take my own advice and apply it to parenting.
There are way too many parts of life that are simply out of our control, and no where is that more evident than when you are a parent.
So bring it on stock market, I’m not afraid of you. I’m a Mom.